I am finally going on my overseas adventure, and I am so so so very excited because I’ll also be sharing it with my husband! Well, he will be my husband by the time we leave.
I’ve had this dream of going and living in Europe for years, probably since high school actually. Then life got in the way and I never really had enough money or I created other responsibilities that would affect my ability to travel. But really, what it came down to was me making up excuses. I was never brave enough to believe in myself, to just throw my hands in the air and say stuff it I’m out, see you in a years time, I’m going travelling!
“I was never brave enough to believe in myself,
to just throw my hands in the air and say
stuff it I’m out,
see you in a years time,
I’m going travelling!”
Other People’s Pessimism
I find that a big inhibitor of people’s ambition is other people. The world is full of pessimistic people that seem to get off on bringing you down to their sad, lonely level. To achieve your goals and be successful you need to try to separate yourself from these kinds of people. When someone that calls them self your friend is pessimistic about things that you achieve or want to achieve how can they be a supportive friend? To achieve your goals you need the support of those that believe in you.
But then there are others that bring you down not because they are pessimistic but because they care a lot and don’t want to see you get hurt. At the time it’s hard to realise this but when you look back you will appreciate their care.
Unfortunately, the truth is that sometimes it’s incredibly beneficial to get hurt. To try something but fail. To learn from an experience, for most, is the best way to learn. Especially when it comes to life lessons.
Just to be clear, I’m not saying don’t take anyone’s advice on these things, do, and then sum up what you feel will work best for you. Just because one person has failed at something doesn’t mean that you will. People achieve what other people failed at every day, no two people are the same which means no two outcomes will ever be exactly the same.
“People achieve what other people failed at every day,
no two people are the same which means no
two outcomes will ever be exactly the same.”
Believing In Yourself
Sometimes the hardest thing to do should be the easiest. Believing in yourself is vital if you want to get anywhere in life.
And it’s really hard! Surprisingly hard. I know because I’m constantly battling with it. It’s an internal battle that’s constantly going. Is this good enough, can I do that, it’s not that good, why am I even trying. It goes on.
By having a negative outlook and believing that you can’t means you will never achieve. You need to believe in yourself and tell yourself that. By thinking that you can’t you are never going to be able to achieve what you want because you’ve already set yourself up to fail.
You need to be willing to change. To change your mindset and to not just think differently, but to also experiment with new ideas and to trust that you’ll discover a way to make them work.
One of the hardest battles I’ve won was creating this blog. I had it as ‘coming soon’ for months. Eventually, my fiance convinced me to open it up to the world. I was so anxious the whole day. But look at me now! I believed in myself (with a little bit of a push) and I’m loving this journey that my blog is taking me on.
Risks & Taking Them
You can live your life safely at home doing the same thing day in, day out and be fine, have a family, go to work, grow old, retire & be “content”. But can you really call that living? I know many people do and are fine with that kind of lifestyle. But if you have ever even considered doing something different then you need to act on it because there is a whole world out there waiting for you.
Taking risks are vital to being successful in a lot of things. The world wouldn’t be where it is at today if people didn’t take risks like harnessing the power of electricity as one example. Just imagine if someone hadn’t done that, and that’s a pretty big risk electricity can be very dangerous if dealt with in the wrong way.
I’ve found that people can be very risk-adverse. When these people hear what you are planning on doing tend to discourage it because it may not be something that they are open to doing. Or maybe they are jealous that you have the guts to go off and do these things when they don’t.
“Nothing Ventured, Nothing Gained – you can’t
get anywhere unless you’re
willing to take a risk.” – Chaucer (c. 1374)
What Is Best For Me
All the big decisions I’ve made in my life so far have been what I felt was best for me at the time. I don’t regret a single one of them, because I know I made the decision based on what I wanted, not what other people thought I should do or wanted me to do.
Along the way, I have had a lot of different opinions thrown at me. Positive ones & negative ones. Sometimes it’s hard to see through everyone else’s opinions. As I’ve said above you need to set them all aside, take them into consideration but ultimately make the decision for yourself.
The thing I don’t think people realise is that most of the time when someone has made a choice, that they have already taken into account all of the side-effects of making that decision. You know your own responsibilities, you know what you need to do and often how to do it but even if you don’t, they need to trust that you will work it out. You know you are making a big decision and to go about it carefully.
“I had my fair share of stress over making
these decisions but really it always
came down to
‘what do I think is best for me?'”
My attitude to the big decisions I’ve made was fairly laid back and I think that’s what catches people off guard and make them worry. Don’t get me wrong, I had my fair share of stress over making these decisions but really it always came down to ‘what do I think is best for me’. That’s what you need to ask yourself when making big life decisions.
The best decisions are made when you are calm and have worked out what it is you want for yourself.
So here I am getting married in May and then heading off to travel the world for 18months. It’s taken a while to get here but I have with the aid of the above points. The most exciting thing, I’ll be doing it with the love of my life.
I hope these points will help you to follow your dreams and aspirations. Remember, no-one will achieve if they’ve decided they can’t before they’ve tried and that what you want is attainable don’t let people’s own problems stop you from achieving your goals.