I got married recently & it was the most perfect day.
But a perfect day doesn’t just happen without anything going wrong first.
If you only want to read about our day & all the amazing events that happened to get there then you should read this post. But if you want the uncensored truth behind the perfect day, you’ll find the 3 main things that caused my wedding stress below.
From day one you’re told all about ‘wedding stress’ & how hard it can be to plan a wedding & it can be, depending on your personality.
I feel like I was pretty good going off the stories I’ve heard & I was also told how well I was dealing with the whole process. Not a “bridezilla” at all. Phew! But I, like everyone else, am not immune to pressure & as the wedding drew closer the pressure to get everything done was building.
The hardest stress to avoid was purely based on my personality & how I react when things don’t go as I had planned or thought they would. I know what will upset me & to what degree things can change before it ruins my day.
My plan was to have everything set up in a way to minimise the number of things that could go wrong. I also wanted to prepare myself for those things that were beyond my control.
It took a lot of talking to & convincing myself that as long as I was marrying the man of my dreams nothing else should be of any importance, & I believe it worked.
By the Friday before I was in a really good place, I even let the bridesmaids have full range on designing their bouquets, the only condition was that they were beautiful. And they were. The fact that I picked all the flowers probably helped.
There are always things that are going to go wrong no matter how much you try to avoid it. I thought I was so organised & that everything was going along as planned, but there is always something unexpected that going to happen. Here are the 3 main stresses I had leading up to our wedding day.
1. The biggest stresses I had, came just a week out from the wedding.
The first thing to cause wedding stress was an email the week before from the owner of the house we rented. The house where the ceremony was to be held. He had permitted the ceremony to happen in the backyard with the strict instruction that the reception was not to happen at the house.
He had had issues with previous guests trashing the place during a wedding & didn’t want a repeat performance. Which we could totally understand & were more than happy to abide by his request.
The stress came when a rumour got to him stating that we were having the whole affair there. This definitely was not the case.
My heart absolutely sunk, I was almost in tears. It was a week out from the big day and now my ceremony venue was in jeopardy. I was not a happy camper.
After having a good chat with him he was fairly reassured, and grandad living in the area sealed the deal. It’s a very little town where everyone knows everyone so if it wasn’t for grandad we wouldn’t have been able to have it there. And no I’m not being dramatic, they were his words.
Thank you for connections that’s all I can say.
2. High-stress number two came the Wednesday before the wedding.
The flowers, which I had ordered wholesale online, got lost for a couple of hours. We got a phone call in the morning from the delivery guy saying that he can’t deliver them to where we needed them.
Their solution was to drop them off an hour up the road at Beurepaires (yes, a car tyre shop) & we could pick them up from there. The one issue being, we were about 5 hours south & not due to arrive until late that afternoon.
Luckily some of the guests had already arrived, they were very sweet & said they’d drive up to collect them.
Problem solved, or so you would think…
I got a rather nervous phone call a couple of hours later. They weren’t where the delivery guy said they’d be & the guys working there were totally befuddled as to why there would be flowers dropped off at their tyre shop. And I don’t blame them.
After a few attempts to get in contact with the delivery guy, we finally discovered that they had dropped them off at a different Beurepaires to what they first said. One that was only 20 minutes from where they were meant to drop them off.
The flowers were collected with ease from there and delivered safely to the house.
So the stress was fixed & we once again had all flowers for our big day. I didn’t have to rely on the couple of bunches I got from the flower markets.
3. The final wedding stress was my own fault.
I had designed the welcome sign for the wedding & wanted it made from wall decal stickers so I could stick them onto a board I had made.
I ordered the decals way too late.
You would think a month would be long enough, especially if I used a company based in Australia. Turns out the company had an Australian website but printed everything in China.
I paid for express shipping to try to ensure they arrived earlier than required. I also changed the delivery address to my grandad’s who lived just down the road from where we were getting married. But they still hadn’t arrived!
I eventually managed to get a tracking number & discovered it was still sitting in customs in Sydney. 8 hours south of where it needed to be.
CUSTOMS! They were still held in customs, I couldn’t believe it. The delivery company said that they should be cleared that day but it may not be for another couple of hours.
Once again some of our amazing friends came to our rescue. They were driving up that day from south of Sydney & were able to pick up the decals. These beautiful friends of ours said they will wait and stay for lunch if they had to.
Fortunately, we got a call half an hour later saying that they were ready for pick up. They were delivered that evening & all ready to go by Saturday morning.
My Biggest Tip To Avoiding Wedding Stress
Keep your head. Do not freak out, it’s not tea with the queen. It’s your wedding day, & the thing that should matter the most is that you’re marrying the love of your life.
You need to keep reminding yourself this, I did. Nothing else matters, not your hair, not the weather, not the number of guests, not the menu, not the flower choices, not the music & definitely not who sits next to whom. All these things help you to enjoy your day, yes, but none of them are vital. None of these things will stop the fact that you will be marrying the man of your dreams.
The stresses I had all got dealt with because I stayed relatively calm. I may have had an initial panic but I stepped back, evaluated the situation & got things sorted.
What wedding stress have you had? Were you a calm & collected bride or did it all get too much at some point? I would love to hear your story. xo